If you're an adult who constantly has difficult with relationships, this blog post might help you understand the origin of these difficulties. It doesn't matter whether it's a sexual partner, family, friend, colleague or business partner. Here's 3 ways your adult relationships may be influenced by your childhood relationships: Reason 1 If your home was chaotic when you were being raised, you may now find it difficult to calm that threat response now that you're an adult. Therefore, you might find yourself hiding away and shutting people out, trying to control your surroundings and other people. You may even find yourself becoming reliant on only one person who makes you feel safe. Such as your husband, for example. This isn't ideal because it can strain relationships. Reason 2 If … [Read more...] about 3 ways your adult relationships can be influenced by your childhood relationships
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Depression: why withdrawing from the world keeps you ‘stuck’
If you're struggling with low mood and a feeling of "I can't be bothered to do anything right now", this post was written for you. I want to tell you something that many people do when they're depressed, and it's something that keeps them stuck exactly where they are. Low mood essentially generates a powerful urge to do just about everything that will keep you stuck whwre you are, ultimately making your mood worse. For example, say you wake up and you just don't feel good. The natural urge - or the trap that many depressed people fall into - is to cancel your plans, stay in bed and just hide away from the world and everybody in it. And let's be honest sometimes we do need that, right? But the problem is that doing this is addictive because, once you decide to avoid something, you get … [Read more...] about Depression: why withdrawing from the world keeps you ‘stuck’
The Power of ‘no’!
I wonder what would happen in your life is you started saying "no" more often. Just think about that for a moment :) 'No' is one of the most powerful words in the English language, yet it's a word that many people struggle with, to some degree. However, when we understand how to say 'no', it has the power to transform your life. Truly...just try it. William Ury explains this in his book The Power of a Positive 'No' (and no, I don't have shares in the book). When confronted by a situation where they might need to say 'no', some people can really feel a sense of panic, which can be quite unexpected, sometimes disabling and, often, causes internal feelings of being incapable, worthless, stupid {insert derogatory words here}. But I'm here today to tell you that ot doesn't need to be like … [Read more...] about The Power of ‘no’!
3 more ways to improve your self-esteem
Self-esteem is esentially the opinion that we have of ourselves and. if you're human, you're more likely than not, to experience self-esteem issues at some point in your life...after a break up...a job loss...a serious accident or illness, these are all common causes of a 'wobble' in self-esteem. Luckily, there are some simple changes that you can make now, to help you mend your self-esteem and get on with the life that you always dreamed of. In this blog post, we briefly show you how you can turn things around. Step 1: Find something you're good at Knowing we are good at something instantly lifts our mood and eventually, self-esteem. It doesn't matter whether you're a coding-nerd or bookwork, or even a talented musician or artist, or if you have a flair for gardening. We are ALL good at … [Read more...] about 3 more ways to improve your self-esteem
3 simple ways to improve self-esteem NOW!
Self-esteem is esentially the opinion that we have of ourselves and. if you're human, you're more likely than not, to experience self-esteem issues at some point in your life...after a break up...a job loss...a serious accident or illness, these are all common causes of a 'wobble' in self-esteem. Luckily, there are some simple changes that you can make now, to help you mend your self-esteem and get on with the life that you always dreamed of. In this blog post, we briefly show you how you can turn things around. Step 1: Stop with the self-criticism There's a reason this is step number one :) In our opinion, self-criticism is the leading cause of problems with self-esteem, and it's also surprisingly common! We see hundreds of clients each year and we're in agreement that, with the … [Read more...] about 3 simple ways to improve self-esteem NOW!
