We all know that life can be very challenging at times. When life gets challenging, we might find that we start to see damage, just like a fragile china teacup might get chipped, cracked, or even shatter. And when that happens, all we want is for things to go back to the way they were (can you resonate with that?). But it's impossible. All we can do is start working hard at the repairs...finding each separate little piece and piecing them back together again, like a jigsaw. Sometimes you might pick up the wrong pieces and you might need to try again, but as time moves on, your progress moves on, if you continue working your way through the pieces and doing the work. Have you ever heard on Kintsugi? This is a Japanese concept where a shattered pot is lovingly restored by piecing it … [Read more...] about Kintsugi applied to life
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3 ways your adult relationships can be influenced by your childhood relationships
If you're an adult who constantly has difficult with relationships, this blog post might help you understand the origin of these difficulties. It doesn't matter whether it's a sexual partner, family, friend, colleague or business partner. Here's 3 ways your adult relationships may be influenced by your childhood relationships: Reason 1 If your home was chaotic when you were being raised, you may now find it difficult to calm that threat response now that you're an adult. Therefore, you might find yourself hiding away and shutting people out, trying to control your surroundings and other people. You may even find yourself becoming reliant on only one person who makes you feel safe. Such as your husband, for example. This isn't ideal because it can strain relationships. Reason 2 If … [Read more...] about 3 ways your adult relationships can be influenced by your childhood relationships
Depression: why withdrawing from the world keeps you ‘stuck’
If you're struggling with low mood and a feeling of "I can't be bothered to do anything right now", this post was written for you. I want to tell you something that many people do when they're depressed, and it's something that keeps them stuck exactly where they are. Low mood essentially generates a powerful urge to do just about everything that will keep you stuck whwre you are, ultimately making your mood worse. For example, say you wake up and you just don't feel good. The natural urge - or the trap that many depressed people fall into - is to cancel your plans, stay in bed and just hide away from the world and everybody in it. And let's be honest sometimes we do need that, right? But the problem is that doing this is addictive because, once you decide to avoid something, you get … [Read more...] about Depression: why withdrawing from the world keeps you ‘stuck’