Today we're looking at 5 key ways in which you can improve your self-esteem. 1. Accept yourself Self-acceptance is: The act of accepting yourself and all your personality traits exactly as they are. You accept them no matter whether they are positive or negative. This includes your physical and mental attributes. - Waters 2021 Waters also explains that beyond self-esteem, self-acceptance leads to many benefits, such as: Control of emotions Forgiveness Improvement in self-confidence Helping you be yourself If only we accepted ourselves the way that we openly accept others. I always find it interesting that we often set such high standards for ourselves, compared to others. Don't do it; you owe it to yourself to be kind to yourself. 2. Value yourself If you have good … [Read more...] about How to improve self-esteem
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How to value your mental health
Today we're lookng at 6 key ways in which you can promote mental well-being in your own life. So let's jump right into it. 1. End toxic relationships Scott (2020) defines a toxic relationships as follows: A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. - Scott (2020) The term doesn't apply to just sexual partners, but every other sphere too, whether it's your employer, a family member, a coach, or somebody else. 2. Talk to friends You know the saying "a problem shared is a problem halved"? It's said for a good reason, because sharing a problem allows you to get a different perspective, process your own thoughts, feelings and emotions and sometimes just doing that allows you to reach a conclusion or decision and maybe find the … [Read more...] about How to value your mental health
10 signs of childhood emotional neglect
In today's post, we're discussing 10 signs of childhood emotional neglect. So, what is emotional abuse and emotional neglect? Emotional abuse Emotional abuse (also known as psychological abuse) is a common cause of low self-esteem and, judging by the clients that we see in our office, it is a significant cause of distress with respect to mental health distress. People who experience emotional abuse may demonstrate distinct personality changes, such as being withdrawn, feeling anxious, depression, or even suicidal. According to Healthy Place, emotional abuse is as follows: Any act including confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, infantilisation, or any other treatment which may diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth (Tracy, 2021). Emotional … [Read more...] about 10 signs of childhood emotional neglect
Do you want to feel more confident?
If you'd like to feel more confident, but you're not sure how to, you might be interested in today's blog post. Did you know that confidence and vulnerability are linked? If you spend your days doing things that make you feel confident, your confidence cannot flourish fully. The key to growing your confidence is to practice being vulnerable. The more time you spend being vulnerable, the more your confidence can develop, grow and mature. So, to develop your confidence, you need to go where you don't want to go...to your vulnerable side. Confidence Rocket Over the past 10 years, every single one of our Confidence Rocket clients reported improvements in confidence. Furthermore, when surveyed just a year later, most of our clients are already experiencing exciting and important … [Read more...] about Do you want to feel more confident?
Golden rule for taking control over your life (anxiety)
If you're struggling with anxiety and desperate to get your life back, you might be interested in our top tip. Today we're sharing our number one golden rule that you should follow if you want to lead a life feeling a little more 'chill'. A natural response to feeling anxious is to do everything you can to avoid whatever it is that's making you feel anxious. Say, for example, you became anxious about crowded places during the pandemic. And eventually, you might have decided to avoid crowded place completely. And that's ok for a while, but then you might realise that travelling on public transport makes you feel anxious...so you start avoiding that too. And that's ok for a while, but then you realise that shopping in the supermarket makes you feel anxious. So, you start … [Read more...] about Golden rule for taking control over your life (anxiety)
1 simple thing to do NOW, to sleep better tonight
Are you struggling to fall asleep because your mind is racing with thoughts and worries? You are not alone; many people suffer from insomnia due to overthinking at night. But don't worry, because we have a simple tip that can help you sleep better. What is it? It's keeping a notebook by your bed. Whenever you have a thought that bothers you or distracts you, just grab your notebook and write it down. How much should you write? You don't have to write a lot; just enough to remind yourself of it in the morning. Alternatively, just write enough to help you off-load your thoughts and feelings. How does this help? Writing in a journal can: Help you clear your mind - we have found that often, when people really think about what's keeping them awake, it is because something is on … [Read more...] about 1 simple thing to do NOW, to sleep better tonight
3 ways to get out of a rut at work
If you feel as though you're stuck in a rut at work, or you feel that your work life is causing you to feel burnout, then this is the post for you. In today's post, we're going to suggest 3 ways that you can get out of that rut, or avoid burnout. If there's anything I can relate to, it's being in a work rut! Indeed, it's a funny place to be really, because on the one hand you're unhappy (or unfulfilled, or whatever), but on the other hand, you're not quite ready to bail. Maybe there's still enough parts of your job that still excite you, or maybe you're eternal optimist and you believe things will get better next week/month/year. Whichever of these sound familiar to you, I hope that you get something positive out of today's post. So, what can you do to get out of that work rut? May … [Read more...] about 3 ways to get out of a rut at work
11 signs that your mental health needs attention
Here are 11 signs that your mental health needs addressing: 1. Reduced energy. 2. Appetite changes - eating too much or too little. 3. No longer finding pleasure in things that you once enjoyed. 4. Small tasks which you used to find easy, start to feel overwhelming. 5. Your to-do list is expanding as you start to avoid things that need doing. 6. Experiencing higher levels of stress or snaxiety, which makes it significantly more difficult to function. 7. You have become withdrawn from family and friends because sociliasing seems to difficult or overwhelming. 8. You are having trouble getting off to sleep and/or staying asleep and wake on multiple occasions for no apparent reason. 9. You're arguing with those around you more than usual. 10. You're having … [Read more...] about 11 signs that your mental health needs attention
Stuck in a “tug of war”, anyone?
If you're struggling with an unwanted emotion, it's like being in a permanent tug of war, where there's a monster on the other end of the rope and a massive hole in the middle. That monster represents all of the thoughts and emptions that you don't want to have. You expect that, if you just keep fighting harder, the monester won't win and you want fall into the pit. And the more you fight, the harder it gets, because you start to get exhausted...yet the monster stands there a strongly as he did at the beginning. It feels like you just can't win! So, you edge closer and closer to the pit in the middle and the more you try to control the monster, the more the monster pulls back. But what if there was another way? What if you just let go of the rope and just allow the monster to … [Read more...] about Stuck in a “tug of war”, anyone?
Kintsugi applied to life
We all know that life can be very challenging at times. When life gets challenging, we might find that we start to see damage, just like a fragile china teacup might get chipped, cracked, or even shatter. And when that happens, all we want is for things to go back to the way they were (can you resonate with that?). But it's impossible. All we can do is start working hard at the repairs...finding each separate little piece and piecing them back together again, like a jigsaw. Sometimes you might pick up the wrong pieces and you might need to try again, but as time moves on, your progress moves on, if you continue working your way through the pieces and doing the work. Have you ever heard on Kintsugi? This is a Japanese concept where a shattered pot is lovingly restored by piecing it … [Read more...] about Kintsugi applied to life
