If you’re an adult who constantly has difficult with relationships, this blog post might help you understand the origin of these difficulties. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a sexual partner, family, friend, colleague or business partner.
Here’s 3 ways your adult relationships may be influenced by your childhood relationships:
Reason 1
If your home was chaotic when you were being raised, you may now find it difficult to calm that threat response now that you’re an adult. Therefore, you might find yourself hiding away and shutting people out, trying to control your surroundings and other people.
You may even find yourself becoming reliant on only one person who makes you feel safe. Such as your husband, for example. This isn’t ideal because it can strain relationships.
Reason 2
If navigating conflict was never modelled to you by your parents, when they were raising you, then you may find that you don’t have the required skills, to confidently manage conflict. So when conflict happens, you may find yourself not acknowledging conflict situations.
This can ultimately lead to resentment, when things don’t get resolved.
Reason 3
Your parents were very critical of you when they were raising you. If this happens, you can become develop perfectionist traits and may become intolerant to anything less than perfect. So now, as an adult, you may find that you can’t stop criticising yourself and sometimes, you may even become critical of your loved ones.
The long term danger
The long term risk of having sub-optimum relationships in your life, is that you miss out on the good things that arise from havinh healthy, happy, trusting relationships with people, whoever they are.
If you have an unhealthy relationship with your significant other, you risk losing the opportunity to enter into a loving and trusting, respectful, healthy relationship.
You risk losing friends and struggling to establish new friendships. This is a cycle which fuels itself after a while, because the loss of friends causes people to believe there is something wrong with them. This causes them to lose confidence and withdraw. Similarly, you might find family members withdraw, for the same reasons.
The truth? Yes, there is something wrong, but it’s totally fixable!
You risk being left out at work, on a social level, in addition to actually ending up in more conflict as colleagues who don’t feel connected to you are more likely to ‘make waves’. This situation is quite dangerous is initself as it undermines your confidence and self-esteem.
That sounds like me!
If all of this sounds very familiar to you, just know that there’s hope because with time and effort, you can work on these behaviours and build a future full of effective, healthy, happy, respectful and productive relationships. Nobody is beyond help!
Hypnotherapy may help repair some of the ‘faulty programmes’ that are running in your subconscious mind and keeping you stuck in this pattern of relationship degredation and dispair. Here at Hypnotic World, we don’t judge, and we’d love to help you heal the relationships in your life, whilst also equipping you with the skills to forge healthy new relationships.
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